peace

Return & Release

/ LaShona Sellers / Leave a comment

In 2024, I reflected on what I was releasing ( The Release). The most significant was releasing my son into adulthood as he turned 18 and prepared to go away to college.

In 2025, life pivots brought him home to work and continue his schooling.

He returned home different. He had new perspectives and new habits. He was experienced yet still had much to learn.

He returned to a different home. Our perspectives and our family rhythm had been shaped by his absence.

It was a challenging adjustment. Each of us wrestled with the grief of unmet expectations. We balanced hard conversations with space and grace. We opened ourselves to rediscovering what was possible.

His return triggered another release. In trying to respect my young adult, I quickly realized- it’s one thing to pray and release from afar but something entirely different to pray and release up close, in real time.

I had to

ask questions,

set & respect healthy boundaries,

choose to hear what wasn’t being said,

and recognize where I was projecting my issues instead of acknowledging his.

It’s been a continual exercise in

encouraging,

affirming,

challenging,

advising,

and sometimes stepping aside to let him feel the full weight of his “adult” decisions.

Parenting in this season of life has stretched me in ways I didn’t know I needed. Some days I feel like I’m fighting for my life in the trenches but I’m grateful for the ways God continually shows himself strong, whispering grace where I see missteps.

My second born (the grand finale) is a teenager coming into her own. She’s watching and taking notes. I know her release will look different from her brother’s .

Our children may resemble us, but they are not us. They have a story, a place and a purpose all their own. We can’t negate the free-will God has given them nor underestimate His grace and transformative power at work in their lives. We can’t know all the future holds for them but we can trust and surrender it all to the One who does.

“Keeping our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfector of our (and our children’s) faith.” – Hebrews 12:2

Grateful for… The honor of nurturing the future. (Gratitude in Six Words)

Lessons in Surrender

/ LaShona Sellers / Leave a comment

The past few weeks have been full of teachable moments, crash courses and sweet reminders. Sharing is caring so here are a few of my takeaways:

  • The world still turns. I don’t keep the world or my world on its axis. Only God can do that.
  • People want to help if you let them. Let your people show their love.
  • To do or to be? That is the question. Being and receiving are hard when you’re wired to do and give but one can’t survive without the other.
  • There is a fine line between helping and hindering. Am I cultivating dependence on me or God? Am I enabling stagnation and fear or encouraging growth and confidence?
  • Don’t be afraid to adjust the plan. It’s never to late to go back and reset your expectations.
  • Don’t let your message get lost in your delivery.

Here’s to uncomfortable growth spurts, complete healing, resilient joy and unexplainable peace.

Happy Friday, friends!

A Most Wonderful Time of the Year

/ LaShona Sellers / 1 Comment

I could not let April end without celebrating the power of poetry and acknowledging the end of National Poetry Month. This month I actually took time to read my own collection of poetry It’s always an interesting exercise going back to read my own words. I alternate between “Wow, that was pretty good” and “Wow, what was I thinking?” This month I also spoke to my writing accountability group about my writing journey and battle with perfectionism. While I consider “speaker” low on my list of descriptors, I enjoyed the experience and think it’s a muscle I want to keep working. If you find yourself on the perfectionist scale, here are a few thoughts:

Perfectionism skews our perception. Our perception of God, of ourselves, and of others. It impacts how we engage the world and how we answer God’s call. Perfectionism tells us if it’s not right then we’re unworthy, unqualified and incompetent. The truth is we are Known & Loved. Called & Equipped. Jeremiah 1:5 reminds us “Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you. Before you were born, I set you apart for my holy purpose...”

Perfectionism steals our peace. Like a bully, it torments our mind and brings unrest to our spirit. Striving to do and be it all. Painstakingly crossing every “t” and dotting every “i”. Keeping up appearances. It can be exhausting.  1 Peter 5:7 in the Living Bible says “Let Him have all your worries and cares, for He is always thinking about you and watching everything that concerns you.”

Perfectionism stalls our progress. We believe the lie that if we can’t do it perfectly, we shouldn’t do it at all. We become Paralyzed, fearing failure. We are reluctant to step out of our comfort zones and “walk on the water.” The bondage of perfection & fear of failure keeps us from moving forward. Galatians 5:1 charges us to “Stand fast therefore in the liberty by which Christ has made us free, and do not be entangled again with a yoke of bondage.” 

The pressure of perfection is released when we trust the One who is perfect. I am grateful that He redeems, He renews and with Him nothing is wasted. 

The One who calls you by name is trustworthy and will thoroughly complete His work in you.–

1 Thess 5:24 TPT 

Opting Out

/ LaShona Sellers
Psalm 136:1(NLT) Give thanks to the Lord, for He is good! His faithful love endures forever.

With the holiday season in full swing, I’m thankful for a Thanksgiving spent at home. With family stretching to the south and to the west, holiday travel is often a given but this year, there really was no place like home (and extra sleep).

Of course thoughts of the holidays don’t always elicit warm fuzzies and good cheer. So what if we opted out? Opted out of obligations that steal our peace. Opted out of traditions and expectations that weigh us with dread and mask us with insincerity. What if we shifted our focus? Changed our perspective? What if we dared to do something different? What if our “yes” was genuine and purposeful? What if our “no” was kind but firm and free of guilt. What if we intentionally set the tone and atmosphere of our space? What if in the midst of it all we took time to just be…

Be grateful. Be at peace.

Happy Holidays!